when i gone through the paper：
i really appreciate all my life group frens write about what they enjoyed the most about me. it really encourage me a lot to continue my journey with Him.
now feel free to share some of them:
ying hui- his willingness to learn new things, and humility to serve God and of course his cuteness(i dont put it by my own..o but really appreciate friendship with you as you always there to be a good listenner for me and give a lot of advice for me)
william-his taketiveness.....
his willingess to look for answer and trust God-(10s william but basically i really learn a lot of things from you.. a lot of first time with you-movies,food and the way you care for people..you never left out of people..10s)
hannah
i enjoy to talk to you.-( its glad that first time got people say this kind of appraisement words to me,10s 1 still have lots of space for improvement)
carissa-that you are teachable but more than that you are so kind and helpful all the time. i truly enjoy your presence! 10u for sharing lives with me...(its glad for me to know you as you always give a direction and always give a lot of advice to me, i know you care about me in my spiritual growth, 10u for being such a wonderful leader in the life group.the way you do things really inspire me a lot)
rachel-that you are very matured, you have a passion for God, you are very willing to share you life with me. you are awesome . 10u so much(1os for saying that i am mature..although i looked like a high school boy.. mayb jz because i think a lot...in doing things,but 10s,for praising me awesome, first time heard this kind of appraisement)
lastly Aaron-very innicent but really amazing person when get to know him. a leader in growing process but definately have the gift of leadershipin him.(i spend not so much time with him,although he is my life group leader, but every time i have problems , i will find him, because he is wise, his advice make me grow up, and i feel free to talk to him and trust between him and me. i always feel like recharging when i met with him and talk to him personally. i know he is a great person and his heart for students...really amazed me a lot ..10s again...)
i never know i have so much things that make other enjoy their lives with me..but its glad as it make me to be a more Godly man .
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Grace between mountains
Grace between mountains
Story of
1kings 18:-Elijah on Mount Carmel
1kings 19:-Elijah flees to Horeb
-The Lord appears to Elijah
In our lives, there is high peak and low tide. There is no one life can be so calm and peace like a straight line without any curve up and down.
The devil will try to separate us from our spiritual family as it is the best way to make us walk away from God.
All of us need people around us in every phase of our lives. We should let someone to be able to speak into our heart all the time no matter we are ok or in down time.
Especially the time when we are down, we start to self-pity. Although through self-pity, we can feel more comfortable, but it still brings us down. We should look for God for His Grace.
And when we are on the top of the mountain, we should thank God for his Grace pouring down on us.
When we are at the valley, we should hold on and cries out to God. God does not leave us along and He gives us Grace with divine strength and power.
God will give you the grace in doing your works if He had asked you to do so.
2 Corinthians 9:8-and God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.(Through his abounding grace, God can enable each Christian to abound in generous deeds.)>>>v11- you will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous in every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
2 Corinthians 12:7-9-⁷to keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh (the nature of this affliction is unknown), a messenger of Satan ( a further descriptions of Paul’s thorn), to torment me. >>>V1- I must go on boasting. Although there is nothing to be gained, I will go on to visions and revelations from the Lord.
⁸ three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
⁹ but he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you (a better solution than to remove Paul’s thorn. Human weakness provides the ideal opportunity for the display of divine power.), for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
never,never give up.. agree or disagree?
The expression "Never, never give up" means to keep trying and never stop working on your goals.
It takes me a few days to think about this topic. At first I am same like others totally agree with this statement but after I think and find some resources about it, I agree with this statement to a certain extent.
Why should this be? First of all, we should refer to the dictionary about the meaning of give up. Give up means stop trying to do something and stop hoping or believing that somebody will change or get better. Yes, we should keep on trying and trying doing something. But the question is: Are you putting all your effort in doing the things before you get failure?
I will separate my essay into a few parts that represent parts in a student life. First of all, Study. A lot of people will always said don’t lose hope and never give up after someone not doing well in their study. But does the person taking their responsibilities to study well? And yet after failure, does the person release where the problems are? Is the person work harder and have more initiative to do well in the next exam?
I realize that a lot people among us study just to pass the exam and not to gain knowledge to be apply in our daily life. And yet some of us are studying for their parents’ wants and not their own interest. As times goes, these person will easy dried up to continue to do well. So as a student, we should find out what are our interest and our aim. Set an aim and goal in our life, always prepare our heart and soul in the best condition to do well in our life with a strength that to be success in once and not twice or even more trying.
Secondly, I will touch on the issue about family relationship. Some of us may have these problems as when I talk to others 1 to 1, I realize that they can relate well with friends than the family. I think many of us when face with this matter, will try to avoid it and blame our parents not modems enough, not tolerate or don’t understand us.etc. But are we doing hard and find ways to improve it? Yes it is hard for our old parents to adopt changes in this world but are we going to tolerate and make a change in their mindset? So think about it whether you agree with my statement or not. We like to blame others instead of ourselves. And most of the time the problems from ourselves and we do not realize it. And keep on blaming others. For some of us, they never give up in blaming others but they give up building their relationship with their parents.
Thirdly, I will touch on the relationship between male and female. I always heard that their heart broken because of break up in their relationship. And they start blaming their partners. For me, I think if there is break up in relationship, both parties do have mistake no matter in what situation. And sometime some of us just take relationship simply, like love at first sight (for me= love is blind.) and some of us working so hard for it. Yes, everyone human is made by God with a heart that is thirsty for love. Do you realize that a lot of us just do the silly things although we realize that it is wrong? Is this considering a good example of not give up? For me relationship is a blessing from God, He will arrange the one for us and not ourselves end up with Mr. /Mrs. Wrong. Like in Chinese quote, it is better for us not to give up the forest just because of that small flower. Sometime, we should learn to let go when break up.
Finally, I think most of us have lots of big dreams in our childhood memory. But when we grow up a lot of our dreams seen to be not real and disappear from our memory. We give up of them already. Do you know that everyone is created just because of a dream? To live with a life with lots of dreams? I felt like burnt up and feel like tired with my life for this past 18 years. Doing things for others and not for myself. When it comes to an end, it’s not me, I like losing my identity and personality. But I take my step to join the Dreams Reloaded camp that I really touch and my broken heart was healed. I am like recharging myself and start doing things from my heart for others and realize that I have so many big dreams that I need to work hard on them. Life is not flat and peace all the time; it will be a boring life like that. So we should live our life to the maximum and make life count (campus friend’s slogan). It is good for man like us not to give up easily and sometime if the things are not made for us, we should learnt to let go.
It takes me a few days to think about this topic. At first I am same like others totally agree with this statement but after I think and find some resources about it, I agree with this statement to a certain extent.
Why should this be? First of all, we should refer to the dictionary about the meaning of give up. Give up means stop trying to do something and stop hoping or believing that somebody will change or get better. Yes, we should keep on trying and trying doing something. But the question is: Are you putting all your effort in doing the things before you get failure?
I will separate my essay into a few parts that represent parts in a student life. First of all, Study. A lot of people will always said don’t lose hope and never give up after someone not doing well in their study. But does the person taking their responsibilities to study well? And yet after failure, does the person release where the problems are? Is the person work harder and have more initiative to do well in the next exam?
I realize that a lot people among us study just to pass the exam and not to gain knowledge to be apply in our daily life. And yet some of us are studying for their parents’ wants and not their own interest. As times goes, these person will easy dried up to continue to do well. So as a student, we should find out what are our interest and our aim. Set an aim and goal in our life, always prepare our heart and soul in the best condition to do well in our life with a strength that to be success in once and not twice or even more trying.
Secondly, I will touch on the issue about family relationship. Some of us may have these problems as when I talk to others 1 to 1, I realize that they can relate well with friends than the family. I think many of us when face with this matter, will try to avoid it and blame our parents not modems enough, not tolerate or don’t understand us.etc. But are we doing hard and find ways to improve it? Yes it is hard for our old parents to adopt changes in this world but are we going to tolerate and make a change in their mindset? So think about it whether you agree with my statement or not. We like to blame others instead of ourselves. And most of the time the problems from ourselves and we do not realize it. And keep on blaming others. For some of us, they never give up in blaming others but they give up building their relationship with their parents.
Thirdly, I will touch on the relationship between male and female. I always heard that their heart broken because of break up in their relationship. And they start blaming their partners. For me, I think if there is break up in relationship, both parties do have mistake no matter in what situation. And sometime some of us just take relationship simply, like love at first sight (for me= love is blind.) and some of us working so hard for it. Yes, everyone human is made by God with a heart that is thirsty for love. Do you realize that a lot of us just do the silly things although we realize that it is wrong? Is this considering a good example of not give up? For me relationship is a blessing from God, He will arrange the one for us and not ourselves end up with Mr. /Mrs. Wrong. Like in Chinese quote, it is better for us not to give up the forest just because of that small flower. Sometime, we should learn to let go when break up.
Finally, I think most of us have lots of big dreams in our childhood memory. But when we grow up a lot of our dreams seen to be not real and disappear from our memory. We give up of them already. Do you know that everyone is created just because of a dream? To live with a life with lots of dreams? I felt like burnt up and feel like tired with my life for this past 18 years. Doing things for others and not for myself. When it comes to an end, it’s not me, I like losing my identity and personality. But I take my step to join the Dreams Reloaded camp that I really touch and my broken heart was healed. I am like recharging myself and start doing things from my heart for others and realize that I have so many big dreams that I need to work hard on them. Life is not flat and peace all the time; it will be a boring life like that. So we should live our life to the maximum and make life count (campus friend’s slogan). It is good for man like us not to give up easily and sometime if the things are not made for us, we should learnt to let go.
Monday, October 12, 2009
RICH DUDE,POOR DUDE
3 aspects to achieve financial peace/freedom
1.receiving-earning
2.managing
3.giving-spending
1.receiving-earning
principles of trusting God
proverbs 10:22- the blessings of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no trouble to it.(wealth is the blessings from God)
proverbs 11:28-whoever trusts in his riches will fall but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.
(usually said who is wicked)
proverbs 22:4- Humidity and the fear of Lord bring wealth and honor and life(benefits for those who seek for wisdom)
beware of get rich schemes
proverbs 28:22-A stingy man is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him.(a warning to those who is stingy and it is the generous who prosper)
proverbs 15:27-A greedy man brings trouble to his family,but he who hates bribes will live.(Archan's whole family perished because of his greed at Jericho aned bribes are condemned）
proverbs 15:25-The Lords tears down the proud man's house but he keep the widow's boundaries intact.(in ancient time boundary stone marked a person's property.anyone who move such as a stone was,in effect, stealing land)
principles of diligence
proverbs 14:23- all hard work brings a profit,but mere talk leads only to poverty.(many proverbs praise diligence and the profit it brings and they condemn laziness as a cause of hunger and poverty)
proverbs10:4-lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hand brings wealth.(so man should work hard for his wealth)
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely, yet gains even more, another withholds unduly,but comes to poverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity.by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run.)
proverbs 11:11-though the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is destroyed.(their good influence and desire for justice as well as the prosperity bring honor to the cuty. their deceit,dishonesty and sowing of discord.)
proverbs 21:5-the plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty(either rash actions or a desire to get rich quick)
2.Managing
principles of wisdom
proverbs 3:13-16
13,blessed is the man who finds wisdom,the man who gain understanding.
14,for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.(the psalmist nakes the same claim for the commands and precepts of the Lord)
15,she is more precious than rubies,nothing you desire can compare with her.(although rubies were the most priceless jewels in the ancient world,they are considered of less value than wisdom)
16, long life is in her right hand and in her left hand are riches an honor.
the quetions to ask is "is it WISE thing to do?'
YES to savings
proverbs 13:11-dishonest money dwindles away,but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.(such as wealth gain by extortion-dishonest money)
proverbs 21:17-he who loves pleasure will become poor,whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich(wine and oil both were associated with lavish feasting )
proverbs 21:20-in the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has.
NO to debts
proverbs 22:7-the rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.(one of the reasons why putting up security for someone else was frowned upon)
3 Giving or spending
principles of stewardship
proverbs22:2-rich and poor have this in common,the Lord is the maker of them all.
proverbs3:9-honor the Lord wiht your wealth,with the firstfruits of all your crops(the Israelites were required to give to the priests the first part of te olive oil,wine and grain produced each year)
needs and wants
principles of generosity
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely yet gains even more,another withholds unduly, but comes to proverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity. by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run)
proverbs 11:25-a generous man will prosper, he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.
proverbs 22:9-a generous man will himself be blessed for he shares his food with the poor.
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rich dude,poor dude-11/10/09
1.receiving-earning
2.managing
3.giving-spending
1.receiving-earning
principles of trusting God
proverbs 10:22- the blessings of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no trouble to it.(wealth is the blessings from God)
proverbs 11:28-whoever trusts in his riches will fall but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.
(usually said who is wicked)
proverbs 22:4- Humidity and the fear of Lord bring wealth and honor and life(benefits for those who seek for wisdom)
beware of get rich schemes
proverbs 28:22-A stingy man is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him.(a warning to those who is stingy and it is the generous who prosper)
proverbs 15:27-A greedy man brings trouble to his family,but he who hates bribes will live.(Archan's whole family perished because of his greed at Jericho aned bribes are condemned）
proverbs 15:25-The Lords tears down the proud man's house but he keep the widow's boundaries intact.(in ancient time boundary stone marked a person's property.anyone who move such as a stone was,in effect, stealing land)
principles of diligence
proverbs 14:23- all hard work brings a profit,but mere talk leads only to poverty.(many proverbs praise diligence and the profit it brings and they condemn laziness as a cause of hunger and poverty)
proverbs10:4-lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hand brings wealth.(so man should work hard for his wealth)
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely, yet gains even more, another withholds unduly,but comes to poverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity.by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run.)
proverbs 11:11-though the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is destroyed.(their good influence and desire for justice as well as the prosperity bring honor to the cuty. their deceit,dishonesty and sowing of discord.)
proverbs 21:5-the plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty(either rash actions or a desire to get rich quick)
2.Managing
principles of wisdom
proverbs 3:13-16
13,blessed is the man who finds wisdom,the man who gain understanding.
14,for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.(the psalmist nakes the same claim for the commands and precepts of the Lord)
15,she is more precious than rubies,nothing you desire can compare with her.(although rubies were the most priceless jewels in the ancient world,they are considered of less value than wisdom)
16, long life is in her right hand and in her left hand are riches an honor.
the quetions to ask is "is it WISE thing to do?'
YES to savings
proverbs 13:11-dishonest money dwindles away,but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.(such as wealth gain by extortion-dishonest money)
proverbs 21:17-he who loves pleasure will become poor,whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich(wine and oil both were associated with lavish feasting )
proverbs 21:20-in the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has.
NO to debts
proverbs 22:7-the rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.(one of the reasons why putting up security for someone else was frowned upon)
3 Giving or spending
principles of stewardship
proverbs22:2-rich and poor have this in common,the Lord is the maker of them all.
proverbs3:9-honor the Lord wiht your wealth,with the firstfruits of all your crops(the Israelites were required to give to the priests the first part of te olive oil,wine and grain produced each year)
needs and wants
principles of generosity
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely yet gains even more,another withholds unduly, but comes to proverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity. by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run)
proverbs 11:25-a generous man will prosper, he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.
proverbs 22:9-a generous man will himself be blessed for he shares his food with the poor.
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rich dude,poor dude-11/10/09
Saturday, October 10, 2009
ANGRY--NEED CHANGES IN THIS WORLD
2day is totally not a nice day for me..as i watched 2 horror movie continuosly--jennifer's body and phobia2..i hate horror movie..there are some misunderstanding part and wrong concept for religions.all d time throughout d movie i pray that d movie will not brings negative value to d people. the influences of movie are so big..that d reason a lot of traditional churches took watching movie is a way to sin..
yes..if u asked me whether i will go for movie half a year ago b4 i came to kdu, i will say no.. but now i know i should go..if i never step out from d comfort zone, i never know d world outside. i cant make any changes in others' life.
after that, d angry rise up when i heard my parents cried in d phone. they thought that i scored a bad and terrible result c+for accounting and biz and D for law..bcz of kdu make a silly mistake..
d wrong key-in of result sent to my parents. they thought that i am struggling so hard here and pretend that i am good ...as they know i am not good in english.so they thought that i lie to them that i amd doing well.
i never make my parents cried since after i start to go school..and it really hurts...it hurts...
deep hurts...
after this..d presentation part..i know as a group i should not b care about who do more or less. but what i concern is u should atleast do things seriously and be responsible for your way of doing things. i am angry again..and again
like feeling dissapointed with d world..i pray and asked God for wisdom..and how to love someone that are so irresponsible..
later i decide to find Wil to talk..i know i should find someone to talk as a way to release all d anger and seek for advice so that a better decision and action to be made.
continued doing my power point..its tiring...
yes..if u asked me whether i will go for movie half a year ago b4 i came to kdu, i will say no.. but now i know i should go..if i never step out from d comfort zone, i never know d world outside. i cant make any changes in others' life.
after that, d angry rise up when i heard my parents cried in d phone. they thought that i scored a bad and terrible result c+for accounting and biz and D for law..bcz of kdu make a silly mistake..
d wrong key-in of result sent to my parents. they thought that i am struggling so hard here and pretend that i am good ...as they know i am not good in english.so they thought that i lie to them that i amd doing well.
i never make my parents cried since after i start to go school..and it really hurts...it hurts...
deep hurts...
after this..d presentation part..i know as a group i should not b care about who do more or less. but what i concern is u should atleast do things seriously and be responsible for your way of doing things. i am angry again..and again
like feeling dissapointed with d world..i pray and asked God for wisdom..and how to love someone that are so irresponsible..
later i decide to find Wil to talk..i know i should find someone to talk as a way to release all d anger and seek for advice so that a better decision and action to be made.
continued doing my power point..its tiring...
Sunday, October 4, 2009
RICH GOD, POOR GOD
Poor God mentality
1 genie mentality-this kind of person basically are people that always ask for return after doing something..
2 buffet mentality-this kind of person basically are greedy person that want to get all at one time
3 pie mentality-this kind of person basically are more calculative and jealous about what others have
So, all of them are consider poor God mentality as it shows the resources are limited.
PROVERBS 22:2
Rich and poor have this in common, the LORD is the MAKER of them all.(that means God created the rich and the poor in HIS image.so no need to jealous about what others have as we are all created in GOD;s image.)
RICH GOD MENTALITY
STORY OF THE PARABLE OF THE LOST SON
LUKE 15:11-32
PROVERBS 10:22
The blessing of the Lords brings wealth and He adds no trouble to it( therefore wealth is a gift from GOD and not a product of human attainment)
JOHN10:10
I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.( Christ's interest is in his sheep, whom he enables them have life to the full)
1 TIMOTHY 6:17
Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain,but to put their hope in God,who richly provide us with everything for our enjoyment.( our God are always there for us to trust Him and ask for His wisdom.)
As a christian when come to believing God,
we should [ CHOOSE THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT THE RESOURCES] FROM GOD
[GOD LOVES SO HE GAVE, WE BELIEVE SO WE RECEIVE]
so, basically this is what i learnt from 2day the service.it will getting more interesting in the coming week with the topic
rich God,poor God-04/10/09
1 genie mentality-this kind of person basically are people that always ask for return after doing something..
2 buffet mentality-this kind of person basically are greedy person that want to get all at one time
3 pie mentality-this kind of person basically are more calculative and jealous about what others have
So, all of them are consider poor God mentality as it shows the resources are limited.
PROVERBS 22:2
Rich and poor have this in common, the LORD is the MAKER of them all.(that means God created the rich and the poor in HIS image.so no need to jealous about what others have as we are all created in GOD;s image.)
RICH GOD MENTALITY
STORY OF THE PARABLE OF THE LOST SON
LUKE 15:11-32
PROVERBS 10:22
The blessing of the Lords brings wealth and He adds no trouble to it( therefore wealth is a gift from GOD and not a product of human attainment)
JOHN10:10
I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.( Christ's interest is in his sheep, whom he enables them have life to the full)
1 TIMOTHY 6:17
Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain,but to put their hope in God,who richly provide us with everything for our enjoyment.( our God are always there for us to trust Him and ask for His wisdom.)
As a christian when come to believing God,
we should [ CHOOSE THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT THE RESOURCES] FROM GOD
[GOD LOVES SO HE GAVE, WE BELIEVE SO WE RECEIVE]
so, basically this is what i learnt from 2day the service.it will getting more interesting in the coming week with the topic
rich God,poor God-04/10/09
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
arranged marriage vs love marriage
In some countries, marriages are arranged by the parents but in other cases, people choose their own marriage partner.
Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.
Give reasons for your answer and include any relevant examples from your own knowledge or experience.
When this topic arises, a lot of questions arise in my mind. If I am the one who is now going to decide which type of marriage that I am going to choose, I really can’t answer it as there are too many areas to be discussed. So I just choose to discuss some areas of it.
So the best way to start discussing this topic is to know what are the meaning of arrange marriage and choosing their own marriage partner.
What is mean by arranged marriage? Arrange marriage (also known as pragmatic marriage) is a marriage that basically arrange by the parents of the groom or bride in the selection of their future spouses. However, both sides of the parents are given full consent in the marriage. This kind of marriage started since the moment people know about the marriage. It has been still exist in some country, especially poor countries like India, China, North Korea and so on. Some of these parents, they use marriage to improve their family condition and status. What does this mean? This means that the family will choose to “sell “their daughter to the rich man as the 2nd or 3rd wife. This seen to be totally immoral and inhumanities. The children have no right to choose their future soul mates. So basically in this situation, there is no such thing called ‘love’ between them. Will this kind of marriage last longer? It depends. If both sides can tolerate with each other, the marriage will last.
Arrange marriage seen to be inhumanities when the marriage is not arrange by the lovers themselves. However, it comes with a good aim when the children reach a certain age and don’t have their lovers, the parents will start worried. The chances of getting married decreases as the age increase. So the parents will start to help their children to find the suitable one. They will arrange lunch, activities for the children to know each other better and to see whether they have feeling towards each other or not. Sometime this kind of marriage works as their children are shy person or don’t have experience in love before. I believe that the parents will pick and choose carefully to find the best one for their children.
Nowadays, the people seem to like freedom so much and they wish to decide everything by themselves including their marriage. They want to choose their life partner by their own. It sounds great as they have the right to choose. They have some sort of love feeling towards each other and they prepare to get into marriage. However, this doesn’t ensure 100%successful marriage. Some of them may end up their marriage a few years after they have discovered that they are not made for each other. Sometime love is blind. The people in love will find everything fine and good in their partners. But sometime the people from the other view can see more clearly and sometime the people can find the problems between the loves. Therefore love is a hard and tough issue and can’t explain in any means.
Some of the people they don’t even know what are love in their whole life. Just before they died, they find out that the marriage is just a responsibility to honor their parents and continue the generation and not love. This exist not only in arrange marriage but also the lovers who choose their own partners. Some of the lovers choose their partners not because of love but a person that they can rely on for the whole life and that’s it.
As a conclusion, marriage is the blessing from God and the marriage should build with a strong foundation of truly trust between the couple. And the marriage is the whole life learning process from life partner. So no matter which type of marriage you want to choose, I just want to bless that it will end up with a fruitful way.
reference:
1.http://marriage.about.com/cs/legalities/g/arranged.htm
2.http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Reality-of-Arranged-Marriages&id=606
3.http://www.teachingpages.co.uk/topicPresentation/articleMarriagePart1
4.thttp://www.boloji.com/women/0072.htm
5.http://www.littleindia.com/news/145/ARTICLE/1797/2007-06-02.html
Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.
Give reasons for your answer and include any relevant examples from your own knowledge or experience.
When this topic arises, a lot of questions arise in my mind. If I am the one who is now going to decide which type of marriage that I am going to choose, I really can’t answer it as there are too many areas to be discussed. So I just choose to discuss some areas of it.
So the best way to start discussing this topic is to know what are the meaning of arrange marriage and choosing their own marriage partner.
What is mean by arranged marriage? Arrange marriage (also known as pragmatic marriage) is a marriage that basically arrange by the parents of the groom or bride in the selection of their future spouses. However, both sides of the parents are given full consent in the marriage. This kind of marriage started since the moment people know about the marriage. It has been still exist in some country, especially poor countries like India, China, North Korea and so on. Some of these parents, they use marriage to improve their family condition and status. What does this mean? This means that the family will choose to “sell “their daughter to the rich man as the 2nd or 3rd wife. This seen to be totally immoral and inhumanities. The children have no right to choose their future soul mates. So basically in this situation, there is no such thing called ‘love’ between them. Will this kind of marriage last longer? It depends. If both sides can tolerate with each other, the marriage will last.
Arrange marriage seen to be inhumanities when the marriage is not arrange by the lovers themselves. However, it comes with a good aim when the children reach a certain age and don’t have their lovers, the parents will start worried. The chances of getting married decreases as the age increase. So the parents will start to help their children to find the suitable one. They will arrange lunch, activities for the children to know each other better and to see whether they have feeling towards each other or not. Sometime this kind of marriage works as their children are shy person or don’t have experience in love before. I believe that the parents will pick and choose carefully to find the best one for their children.
Nowadays, the people seem to like freedom so much and they wish to decide everything by themselves including their marriage. They want to choose their life partner by their own. It sounds great as they have the right to choose. They have some sort of love feeling towards each other and they prepare to get into marriage. However, this doesn’t ensure 100%successful marriage. Some of them may end up their marriage a few years after they have discovered that they are not made for each other. Sometime love is blind. The people in love will find everything fine and good in their partners. But sometime the people from the other view can see more clearly and sometime the people can find the problems between the loves. Therefore love is a hard and tough issue and can’t explain in any means.
Some of the people they don’t even know what are love in their whole life. Just before they died, they find out that the marriage is just a responsibility to honor their parents and continue the generation and not love. This exist not only in arrange marriage but also the lovers who choose their own partners. Some of the lovers choose their partners not because of love but a person that they can rely on for the whole life and that’s it.
As a conclusion, marriage is the blessing from God and the marriage should build with a strong foundation of truly trust between the couple. And the marriage is the whole life learning process from life partner. So no matter which type of marriage you want to choose, I just want to bless that it will end up with a fruitful way.
reference:
1.http://marriage.about.com/cs/legalities/g/arranged.htm
2.http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Reality-of-Arranged-Marriages&id=606
3.http://www.teachingpages.co.uk/topicPresentation/articleMarriagePart1
4.thttp://www.boloji.com/women/0072.htm
5.http://www.littleindia.com/news/145/ARTICLE/1797/2007-06-02.html
Monday, September 28, 2009
sorry sorry
sorry for being long time not updating my blog..no worry eveyone everything going ok. and yet i need to say sorry again as i will not be updating this blog for d coming october as i need to study for my AS exam..so do bless me and i will b back soon after the exam.
Friday, July 31, 2009
start holiday....liao...hurray
its a good time for me to totally rest my mind..although it jz one week short break ..but it is better than no holiday..all of my coursemates go back to their hometown and what i am going to do? do someone have any plans for me?(ya, my lecturers have plans for me--that are lots of homework...)
2day watched d the proposal, it was totally a great movie as it reflect our lives..its jz funny and interesting...if u havent watch it jz go and watch it and u will really enjoy it..
2night we went to hv a surprise birthday celebration for vicky..and yet this made me felt like i am really old..18 n half years old...omg....and yet i am here 4 4 n half mths without going back to my hometown..i still alive although there are many life challenges that i faced for d past 4 n half mths...hahaha
2day watched d the proposal, it was totally a great movie as it reflect our lives..its jz funny and interesting...if u havent watch it jz go and watch it and u will really enjoy it..
2night we went to hv a surprise birthday celebration for vicky..and yet this made me felt like i am really old..18 n half years old...omg....and yet i am here 4 4 n half mths without going back to my hometown..i still alive although there are many life challenges that i faced for d past 4 n half mths...hahaha
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
i felt i am old already
sometime i cannot accept what my coursemates thinking mind.. and i think the gap between them and me getting bigger and bigger like we are in the different century.. i think i dun hv that kind of easy going and excited and energetic heart anymore.. and i dun like them have nothing to worry about their life...i need to worry from time to time in every aspects.. and yet i think i am not young already need to think about the future and not only thinking of what is going on today....
and sometime i really thought that coursemate cannot become best frens as we r always in competition and sometime we like to keep some secret behind us..or sometimes i really kena shoot by arrow from behind and i didnt recognised it..when i discovered it, it already too late and sometimes cant believe that it was done by the person that i thought was my best frens...quite sad and hurt..
if d friendship cannot go further or improve anymore, i think it is better for us to go back to d starting point and jz b normal friends instead of hurting each others ...
and sometime i really thought that coursemate cannot become best frens as we r always in competition and sometime we like to keep some secret behind us..or sometimes i really kena shoot by arrow from behind and i didnt recognised it..when i discovered it, it already too late and sometimes cant believe that it was done by the person that i thought was my best frens...quite sad and hurt..
if d friendship cannot go further or improve anymore, i think it is better for us to go back to d starting point and jz b normal friends instead of hurting each others ...
Thursday, July 23, 2009
not feeling well
i really faced a difficult life for this week suffering from throat pain, high fever and heandache...i really cannot withstand them..i jz took a rest on thursday and i felt better after that. i jz thought that i was infected by h1n1.,..as i hv all d symptoms... i jz prayed veli hard to the God asked him to give me grace and help me to recovered soon.. and God answered my prayer. ijz asked GOd so that i can have a healthy body to come to cf meeting for friday..after resting for one day..i felt better and friday..i was around 80% recovered from sick...so wonderful is my God..
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