arranged marriage vs love marriage

In some countries, marriages are arranged by the parents but in other cases, people choose their own marriage partner.

Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.
Give reasons for your answer and include any relevant examples from your own knowledge or experience.

When this topic arises, a lot of questions arise in my mind. If I am the one who is now going to decide which type of marriage that I am going to choose, I really can’t answer it as there are too many areas to be discussed. So I just choose to discuss some areas of it.
So the best way to start discussing this topic is to know what are the meaning of arrange marriage and choosing their own marriage partner.
What is mean by arranged marriage? Arrange marriage (also known as pragmatic marriage) is a marriage that basically arrange by the parents of the groom or bride in the selection of their future spouses. However, both sides of the parents are given full consent in the marriage. This kind of marriage started since the moment people know about the marriage. It has been still exist in some country, especially poor countries like India, China, North Korea and so on. Some of these parents, they use marriage to improve their family condition and status. What does this mean? This means that the family will choose to “sell “their daughter to the rich man as the 2nd or 3rd wife. This seen to be totally immoral and inhumanities. The children have no right to choose their future soul mates. So basically in this situation, there is no such thing called ‘love’ between them. Will this kind of marriage last longer? It depends. If both sides can tolerate with each other, the marriage will last.
Arrange marriage seen to be inhumanities when the marriage is not arrange by the lovers themselves. However, it comes with a good aim when the children reach a certain age and don’t have their lovers, the parents will start worried. The chances of getting married decreases as the age increase. So the parents will start to help their children to find the suitable one. They will arrange lunch, activities for the children to know each other better and to see whether they have feeling towards each other or not. Sometime this kind of marriage works as their children are shy person or don’t have experience in love before. I believe that the parents will pick and choose carefully to find the best one for their children.
Nowadays, the people seem to like freedom so much and they wish to decide everything by themselves including their marriage. They want to choose their life partner by their own. It sounds great as they have the right to choose. They have some sort of love feeling towards each other and they prepare to get into marriage. However, this doesn’t ensure 100%successful marriage. Some of them may end up their marriage a few years after they have discovered that they are not made for each other. Sometime love is blind. The people in love will find everything fine and good in their partners. But sometime the people from the other view can see more clearly and sometime the people can find the problems between the loves. Therefore love is a hard and tough issue and can’t explain in any means.
Some of the people they don’t even know what are love in their whole life. Just before they died, they find out that the marriage is just a responsibility to honor their parents and continue the generation and not love. This exist not only in arrange marriage but also the lovers who choose their own partners. Some of the lovers choose their partners not because of love but a person that they can rely on for the whole life and that’s it.

As a conclusion, marriage is the blessing from God and the marriage should build with a strong foundation of truly trust between the couple. And the marriage is the whole life learning process from life partner. So no matter which type of marriage you want to choose, I just want to bless that it will end up with a fruitful way.

reference:
1.http://marriage.about.com/cs/legalities/g/arranged.htm
2.http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Reality-of-Arranged-Marriages&id=606
3.http://www.teachingpages.co.uk/topicPresentation/articleMarriagePart1
4.thttp://www.boloji.com/women/0072.htm
5.http://www.littleindia.com/news/145/ARTICLE/1797/2007-06-02.html

sorry sorry

sorry for being long time not updating my blog..no worry eveyone everything going ok. and yet i need to say sorry again as i will not be updating this blog for d coming october as i need to study for my AS exam..so do bless me and i will b back soon after the exam.

start holiday....liao...hurray

its a good time for me to totally rest my mind..although it jz one week short break ..but it is better than no holiday..all of my coursemates go back to their hometown and what i am going to do? do someone have any plans for me?(ya, my lecturers have plans for me--that are lots of homework...)


2day watched d the proposal, it was totally a great movie as it reflect our lives..its jz funny and interesting...if u havent watch it jz go and watch it and u will really enjoy it..

2night we went to hv a surprise birthday celebration for vicky..and yet this made me felt like i am really old..18 n half years old...omg....and yet i am here 4 4 n half mths without going back to my hometown..i still alive although there are many life challenges that i faced for d past 4 n half mths...hahaha

i felt i am old already

sometime i cannot accept what my coursemates thinking mind.. and i think the gap between them and me getting bigger and bigger like we are in the different century.. i think i dun hv that kind of easy going and excited and energetic heart anymore.. and i dun like them have nothing to worry about their life...i need to worry from time to time in every aspects.. and yet i think i am not young already need to think about the future and not only thinking of what is going on today....

and sometime i really thought that coursemate cannot become best frens as we r always in competition and sometime we like to keep some secret behind us..or sometimes i really kena shoot by arrow from behind and i didnt recognised it..when i discovered it, it already too late and sometimes cant believe that it was done by the person that i thought was my best frens...quite sad and hurt..

if d friendship cannot go further or improve anymore, i think it is better for us to go back to d starting point and jz b normal friends instead of hurting each others ...

not feeling well

i really faced a difficult life for this week suffering from throat pain, high fever and heandache...i really cannot withstand them..i jz took a rest on thursday and i felt better after that. i jz thought that i was infected by h1n1.,..as i hv all d symptoms... i jz prayed veli hard to the God asked him to give me grace and help me to recovered soon.. and God answered my prayer. ijz asked GOd so that i can have a healthy body to come to cf meeting for friday..after resting for one day..i felt better and friday..i was around 80% recovered from sick...so wonderful is my God..

3rd week of july

16/07-----3rd time visit to umaiya japanese restaurant.it can be considered as very sudden incident as i jz ask William to accompany me to Atria to buy something but somehow he ask me either i want to join for d dinner or not...without thinking too much i jz say ok...enjoy it... i ordered d salmon fish bento set.....

llafter d dinner William accompany me to Atria to buy some groceries..10s ...
study.....


17/07....
finished my biz studies test..relax..no burden anymore..oooo
tis friday...no vibe,what i can do?i ask myself ..bcz every friday night i do attend d vibe so suddenly no idea of what to do..bored...


20/07
quarrel with a&b people..really angry ..i asked a&b to get back my deposit..i jz check d amount with her,and she seen to b not happy/and yet she made a mistake by entering d electric fees twice for d same month ...so i asked her to cancel d transaction..but she said cannot..and she jz said only 20 something, eat one meal already can used up..so no need to be so care for it..and yet u r kdu scholars, u cannot made so much "noise' .wah..when she said this..i cannot tahan, and i jz said
ya,its true, since rm20+in ur eyes is nothing, so u give me back d money lah, and yet it is true that i cannot argued with kdu, but somehow d agreement doesnt said that i cannot argued with kdu workers..since i am not satisfied with u service, i jz go to d 4th floor, tell d principal of this incident, let her decide...what u hv said jz now, i hv recorded...so no need to argue anymore,...after this she said calm down and she give back d money to me...really this world already sick..y people r like this. if u good to others, people not appreatiate it but somehow want to get more from u. learn to protect myself...really dissapointed with kdu college management..totally different from what i thought b4..

and y God showed me d way to KDU and show me all this kind of things? i always asked God in my prayer,why u want me to face so many things? do i hv d ability to overcome all this kind of things? mayb these are also challenges that i need to overcome it as a step of growth.. pray hard...

durian night with william,nai lin and her fren

aiyoh...2night was my first time in life trying durian....wah the taste of durian was so nice until i cant tahan to continue to eat d durian...there was wrong mind concept of durian b4 in my mind...really enjoy the durian ...the smell and the taste made me want to continue eat them....now i am suffering after enjoyed eating d durian.i am now having headache and worry about the increase in weight...omg..we really need to sacrifice something in order to get something that we want..now i realise it..

10s to all guys for bringing me to d durian stall and eat...and such a wonderful first time with durian in my life...praise GOd....Muah....

down...do not have good mood

2day whole day after receiving the brochure about body slimming and asked to join the body slimming course.i was so down and upset. i asked myself, am i so fat? why the people asked me to do that?i really cant believe it. that mean i am growing fat now.and this bring me back the memories when i was veli fat for the past 17 years..it was a nightmare for me and everytime the fat photo i had remind me not to be so fat like that anymore or else i will not forgive myself...and yet 2day i ate a lot of things to release my sad thought.so now regret..if 2moro i become fatter, God please transform me back to normal size before ... i dont want to be a fat guy...go exercise...my next target to lose 5 kg to make my weight to be around 43-45kg...gambateh.jy jy

a good start

last wednesday after prayer meeting, i was asked by teacher advisor of kdu cf, to prepare for worship leading on friday as the people in charge cannot make it for this week as he fall sick. i was so nervous and scare as i had no such experience before.. singing alone in front of all. and yet the songs that i knew jz a few .so how can i do it? at first, i want to refuse it,later i change my mind because of these few words, it is nod depending on how clever or how good you are, but the heart and the willingness are the most important things to serve GOd.


last friday i was worship leading in my college christian fellowship meeting.i was so nervous until i cant sleep for 2 nights. and on that day, i pray very hard that i have the courage to stand in front of others to worship GOd..cannot simply main main..i did it...i finished worship leading.. although there were some mistakes or errors but i think this is a good try and good starting for me to step a big step nearer to GOd and a way to reach out and make my way to serve God more clear..God has show his will to me through the think that He want me to learn.

last friday..bbq night

it was such a wonderful night for all of us to gather at d park to have bbq. it had been such a long time i never attend this kind of activity since last year after i quit scout for the reason to prepare for spm exam. during d bbq section, we get to know more people that we never seen before...hahaha...and played some games...although it was quite tiring but somehow a sweet memory to b remember...

vandalism..sorry to all d residents living at d ss22...sorry again

learned a new lesson

2day jz a horrible day for me. everything beyond my control. i had been chased out by the landlady and this made me quite angry as she still dare enough to aske me to pay the rental fee. since i had told her i will use the deposit and go and now she did this to me. she was well pretending. inside the house, she was as fierce as tiger made me think of the old lady in the movie drag me to the hell. the aim for writing this article is not saying something bad behind others but just a way for me to voice out all my disappointment,sad and angry towards this kind of landlord and landlady. the thing that dissapointed me the most was the landlord's whole family are christian and yet the landlady serve in the children'ministry. all my goodness!!suddenly this incident made me clear that not all the christians are truely good and kind as what they have been in church. just like what ms Angeline had told me that nowadays christians in this world do not have the heart to serve and help others. they only think about themselves. i think God has His purpose for me to stay in this house. He wants to show me something and want me to learn something from this incident. just pray for a better room to live in 2moro.


10s to all my church frens, Boon Feng, William,Ying Hui,Lucy,Rachel,Brian.. all of you are really true friends for me.your love and heart towards the spritual brother are coming with action and not only just talking something and never come with action. All the best to you guys..God Bless you!!!