Without thinking too much I will say yes that women play more important role in parenting. But after further thinking, I think family consists of man and woman make a better parenting as it only consider a complete family with the exists of both man and woman.
In traditions, women are playing an important role as housewives. They spend most of their time in the house together with the children. The men are going out to work from day to night just to find a living for the family. However, when time goes, the women now are more ‘independent’ in the sense that they are now working and not totally rely on their husband. There is a balance between men and women. So there are different things that can be found in the men and women.
When we are young as small children, girls will be more likely to get close with their father while boys are vice versa. When we grow up, we tend to be more personal like more willing to share our lives with someone that we trust and same sex as us. We do not feel like embarrassed to talk about topic like relationship, marriage, love, sex and etc. This is important for teenagers as they are curious about these kinds of topics, and yet they need someone to teach them the correct way to handle them.
Beside that, men and women play different role in the family. Women will act as ‘white face’, give a lot of advice, encouragement, while on the other side, men need to act as a ‘black face’ to be more strict and give punishment to their children when in need. Parenting is important as it build up the children characteristics and personalities. It has been states that saying a bad word needs 7 good words to offset the effect of that bad word. A child born in the family with always scolding and punishment will have a negative mindset and low self-confident. This is bad for the children to start friendship, socialize with others. So there should be a balance in parenting while both men and women should play different role and both are equally important.
Apart from that, there has been proven that many problems teenagers that involved in civil and criminal offences are came from single parent family. This show how important to have both male and female in a family. Lack of caring and love from parents will lead to a higher possibility for teenagers to do the wrong things.
As a conclusion, both father and mother play important roles in parenting in order to make their children to be success in their lives.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Monday, October 26, 2009
updating my life
although i am in down mode for these few days, worrying a lot of things(basically what others called sendiri cari lubang and tanam diri sendiri ke dalam). i like to find problems for myself just because i care too much about things happening around me.
i am worrying for a lot of things.i don't know whether i am the one who brings the person up in their faith or pushing them into the fire.
although i received the calling from God to start another journey for Him, but i still cant make it just because i dont want the people from my church to get hurt and dried up after knowing the truth that they are going to face in future.
i am preparing to stop what i am doing now and put more time and effort in my church.i know this is the place that i can grow up spiritually and learn things from it. i know this is the place i start my new life and the place that i feel like home.(thats d reason i never feel homesick when i came to here)/
i will ask them about whether they have the calling from God to be the one who lead the club for next year,if yes, i will stay back and help them to grow up to be the leader leading the direction for next year, or no, i will directly finish all my task and step down become a normal member. i know their is no different between committee member and normal member..because all of us come with a servant heart and serve the same God.
i know this place need revival and yet because of the club, we find new people to join my church.
i know i will not be lonely in this journey of faith, as there are so many people supporting me, helping me, care about me and i can rely on when i am in bad situation.
i am not alone anymore, step out from my comfort zone(stop to be an alonner) try to know how the others go through their lives. if never step on water, we never know that there is life there.
but i know i need to hold the principles tightly.
i know it will be a little late to start all this kind of things..but i know it never be late for me to do great things for Him. as a faithful and humble servant for Him.
preparing to start serving in the church, as i have been joinning this church for such a long time(more than half a year, it should be started few months ago when Alex asked me which area God have ask you to do for this church)but my answer is i still have a lot of things to finish, cf,studies and i am not 100% ready yet.
but now i am ready.
sometime i feel so glad that i am joinning this church as i change from a veli reserved person to slowly become a more outgoing man. although there are still lots of things for me to learn, but i never feel scare as i know my journey will not be alone, He will always there for me. when the time i am in difficulties and down, he will hold me up and give me hope.
try to ask pastor as soon as possible about the 2nd time water baptism. its sound quite weird, but i am planning to do so. WHy?
1 of the reason is i have done my water baptise when i was a 1mth old baby. so it is better for me to do it once for myself as i continue my journey for Him.
apart from that, it is an assurance for me that this time in my acknowledgement, i accept jesus as my savior and renew my faith.
really feel like warmth and touch when i am now more than 1 week cant online at home, my church people let me go to their house to online(although extra people make the line become slower)it so touch when someone pass you the key and let you go to their house. i know it is because of trust- really appreciate this discipleship and friendship built between us.thanks
thanks again for what God have done in my life, touch my heart and i know i should not be receiving all the time and i know its time for me to give things out to others to help others to grow up.
i am worrying for a lot of things.i don't know whether i am the one who brings the person up in their faith or pushing them into the fire.
although i received the calling from God to start another journey for Him, but i still cant make it just because i dont want the people from my church to get hurt and dried up after knowing the truth that they are going to face in future.
i am preparing to stop what i am doing now and put more time and effort in my church.i know this is the place that i can grow up spiritually and learn things from it. i know this is the place i start my new life and the place that i feel like home.(thats d reason i never feel homesick when i came to here)/
i will ask them about whether they have the calling from God to be the one who lead the club for next year,if yes, i will stay back and help them to grow up to be the leader leading the direction for next year, or no, i will directly finish all my task and step down become a normal member. i know their is no different between committee member and normal member..because all of us come with a servant heart and serve the same God.
i know this place need revival and yet because of the club, we find new people to join my church.
i know i will not be lonely in this journey of faith, as there are so many people supporting me, helping me, care about me and i can rely on when i am in bad situation.
i am not alone anymore, step out from my comfort zone(stop to be an alonner) try to know how the others go through their lives. if never step on water, we never know that there is life there.
but i know i need to hold the principles tightly.
i know it will be a little late to start all this kind of things..but i know it never be late for me to do great things for Him. as a faithful and humble servant for Him.
preparing to start serving in the church, as i have been joinning this church for such a long time(more than half a year, it should be started few months ago when Alex asked me which area God have ask you to do for this church)but my answer is i still have a lot of things to finish, cf,studies and i am not 100% ready yet.
but now i am ready.
sometime i feel so glad that i am joinning this church as i change from a veli reserved person to slowly become a more outgoing man. although there are still lots of things for me to learn, but i never feel scare as i know my journey will not be alone, He will always there for me. when the time i am in difficulties and down, he will hold me up and give me hope.
try to ask pastor as soon as possible about the 2nd time water baptism. its sound quite weird, but i am planning to do so. WHy?
1 of the reason is i have done my water baptise when i was a 1mth old baby. so it is better for me to do it once for myself as i continue my journey for Him.
apart from that, it is an assurance for me that this time in my acknowledgement, i accept jesus as my savior and renew my faith.
really feel like warmth and touch when i am now more than 1 week cant online at home, my church people let me go to their house to online(although extra people make the line become slower)it so touch when someone pass you the key and let you go to their house. i know it is because of trust- really appreciate this discipleship and friendship built between us.thanks
thanks again for what God have done in my life, touch my heart and i know i should not be receiving all the time and i know its time for me to give things out to others to help others to grow up.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Daily Grace
Grace is given not because of we have done a good job but in order for us to get it we need to work for it.
Grace continues to allow God’s spirit to transform us.
Grace is needed to remain people in their right way of living their lives.
Grace i doesnt mean it's a licence to sin but Grace is given so that we might have power and choose not to sin (Grace is empowerment for us to say ‘No’ to sin and not just forgive our sins.)
John 1:17-for the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. (Grace and truth always come together.)
There are 3 Graces taught by Pastor today:
1.Grace for speech
Proverbs 22:11-he who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. (Characteristics of a wise king to his friends)
References
Ecclesiastes 10:12- words from a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.
Proverbs 22:29- do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men.
Proverbs 24:4- through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. (Wisdom promises to bestow wealth on those who love her.)
Colossians 4:6- let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. (Christians’ conversation is to be wholesome.)
References
Colossians 3:8-but now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Ephesians 4:29-do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.(Christians are not only stop saying unwholesome things; they also begin to say things that will help build others up.)
1 Corinthians 14:3- but everyone who prophesies speaks to men for their strengthening, encouragement and comfort.
Grace to say “No”
Titus 2:11-14-
11 for the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. (right conduct must be founded on right doctrine. The undeserved love God showed us in Christ while we were still sinners and his enemies and by which we are saved apart from any moral achievements or religious acts on our part. But this same grace instructs us that our salvation should produce good works.)
12 it teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, (the word ‘teaches ‘ includes a process of training a child- instruction, encouragement, correction and discipline)
13 while we wait for the blessed hope-the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ,
14who gave himself for us to redeem from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own eager to do what is good.( salvation involves the double work of redeeming us from guilt and judgment and of producing moral purity and helpful service to others)
Grace to overcome
2 Corinthians 9:8-and God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will be abound in every good work.( through his abounding grace, God can enable each Christians to abound in generous deeds)
References
2 Corinthians 9:11- you will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
2 Corinthians 12:7-10-
7-to keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me.
8- Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
9- But he said to me: “my grace is sufficient for you; my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (Human weakness provides the ideal opportunity for the display of divine power.)
10-that is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (Classic example of power in weakness is the cross of Christ.)
Reference
Philippians 4:13- I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Hebrews 4:15-16
15- for we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin.（Stresses the parallel between Christ’s temptations and ours. He did not have each temptation that we have but experienced the whole range of our temptations. The way in which Christ’s temptations were different from ours was in the results-his temptations never led to sin.）
16- let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Because Christ our high priest has experienced human temptation, he stands ready to give immediate and sympathetic help when we are tempted.)
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Grace continues to allow God’s spirit to transform us.
Grace is needed to remain people in their right way of living their lives.
Grace i doesnt mean it's a licence to sin but Grace is given so that we might have power and choose not to sin (Grace is empowerment for us to say ‘No’ to sin and not just forgive our sins.)
John 1:17-for the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. (Grace and truth always come together.)
There are 3 Graces taught by Pastor today:
1.Grace for speech
Proverbs 22:11-he who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. (Characteristics of a wise king to his friends)
References
Ecclesiastes 10:12- words from a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.
Proverbs 22:29- do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men.
Proverbs 24:4- through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. (Wisdom promises to bestow wealth on those who love her.)
Colossians 4:6- let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. (Christians’ conversation is to be wholesome.)
References
Colossians 3:8-but now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Ephesians 4:29-do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.(Christians are not only stop saying unwholesome things; they also begin to say things that will help build others up.)
1 Corinthians 14:3- but everyone who prophesies speaks to men for their strengthening, encouragement and comfort.
Grace to say “No”
Titus 2:11-14-
11 for the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. (right conduct must be founded on right doctrine. The undeserved love God showed us in Christ while we were still sinners and his enemies and by which we are saved apart from any moral achievements or religious acts on our part. But this same grace instructs us that our salvation should produce good works.)
12 it teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, (the word ‘teaches ‘ includes a process of training a child- instruction, encouragement, correction and discipline)
13 while we wait for the blessed hope-the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ,
14who gave himself for us to redeem from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own eager to do what is good.( salvation involves the double work of redeeming us from guilt and judgment and of producing moral purity and helpful service to others)
Grace to overcome
2 Corinthians 9:8-and God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will be abound in every good work.( through his abounding grace, God can enable each Christians to abound in generous deeds)
References
2 Corinthians 9:11- you will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
2 Corinthians 12:7-10-
7-to keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me.
8- Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
9- But he said to me: “my grace is sufficient for you; my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (Human weakness provides the ideal opportunity for the display of divine power.)
10-that is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (Classic example of power in weakness is the cross of Christ.)
Reference
Philippians 4:13- I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Hebrews 4:15-16
15- for we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin.（Stresses the parallel between Christ’s temptations and ours. He did not have each temptation that we have but experienced the whole range of our temptations. The way in which Christ’s temptations were different from ours was in the results-his temptations never led to sin.）
16- let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Because Christ our high priest has experienced human temptation, he stands ready to give immediate and sympathetic help when we are tempted.)
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Saturday, October 24, 2009
touching moment after last friday vibe
when i gone through the paper：
i really appreciate all my life group frens write about what they enjoyed the most about me. it really encourage me a lot to continue my journey with Him.
now feel free to share some of them:
ying hui- his willingness to learn new things, and humility to serve God and of course his cuteness(i dont put it by my own..o but really appreciate friendship with you as you always there to be a good listenner for me and give a lot of advice for me)
william-his taketiveness.....
his willingess to look for answer and trust God-(10s william but basically i really learn a lot of things from you.. a lot of first time with you-movies,food and the way you care for people..you never left out of people..10s)
hannah
i enjoy to talk to you.-( its glad that first time got people say this kind of appraisement words to me,10s 1 still have lots of space for improvement)
carissa-that you are teachable but more than that you are so kind and helpful all the time. i truly enjoy your presence! 10u for sharing lives with me...(its glad for me to know you as you always give a direction and always give a lot of advice to me, i know you care about me in my spiritual growth, 10u for being such a wonderful leader in the life group.the way you do things really inspire me a lot)
rachel-that you are very matured, you have a passion for God, you are very willing to share you life with me. you are awesome . 10u so much(1os for saying that i am mature..although i looked like a high school boy.. mayb jz because i think a lot...in doing things,but 10s,for praising me awesome, first time heard this kind of appraisement)
lastly Aaron-very innicent but really amazing person when get to know him. a leader in growing process but definately have the gift of leadershipin him.(i spend not so much time with him,although he is my life group leader, but every time i have problems , i will find him, because he is wise, his advice make me grow up, and i feel free to talk to him and trust between him and me. i always feel like recharging when i met with him and talk to him personally. i know he is a great person and his heart for students...really amazed me a lot ..10s again...)
i never know i have so much things that make other enjoy their lives with me..but its glad as it make me to be a more Godly man .
i really appreciate all my life group frens write about what they enjoyed the most about me. it really encourage me a lot to continue my journey with Him.
now feel free to share some of them:
ying hui- his willingness to learn new things, and humility to serve God and of course his cuteness(i dont put it by my own..o but really appreciate friendship with you as you always there to be a good listenner for me and give a lot of advice for me)
william-his taketiveness.....
his willingess to look for answer and trust God-(10s william but basically i really learn a lot of things from you.. a lot of first time with you-movies,food and the way you care for people..you never left out of people..10s)
hannah
i enjoy to talk to you.-( its glad that first time got people say this kind of appraisement words to me,10s 1 still have lots of space for improvement)
carissa-that you are teachable but more than that you are so kind and helpful all the time. i truly enjoy your presence! 10u for sharing lives with me...(its glad for me to know you as you always give a direction and always give a lot of advice to me, i know you care about me in my spiritual growth, 10u for being such a wonderful leader in the life group.the way you do things really inspire me a lot)
rachel-that you are very matured, you have a passion for God, you are very willing to share you life with me. you are awesome . 10u so much(1os for saying that i am mature..although i looked like a high school boy.. mayb jz because i think a lot...in doing things,but 10s,for praising me awesome, first time heard this kind of appraisement)
lastly Aaron-very innicent but really amazing person when get to know him. a leader in growing process but definately have the gift of leadershipin him.(i spend not so much time with him,although he is my life group leader, but every time i have problems , i will find him, because he is wise, his advice make me grow up, and i feel free to talk to him and trust between him and me. i always feel like recharging when i met with him and talk to him personally. i know he is a great person and his heart for students...really amazed me a lot ..10s again...)
i never know i have so much things that make other enjoy their lives with me..but its glad as it make me to be a more Godly man .
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Grace between mountains
Grace between mountains
Story of
1kings 18:-Elijah on Mount Carmel
1kings 19:-Elijah flees to Horeb
-The Lord appears to Elijah
In our lives, there is high peak and low tide. There is no one life can be so calm and peace like a straight line without any curve up and down.
The devil will try to separate us from our spiritual family as it is the best way to make us walk away from God.
All of us need people around us in every phase of our lives. We should let someone to be able to speak into our heart all the time no matter we are ok or in down time.
Especially the time when we are down, we start to self-pity. Although through self-pity, we can feel more comfortable, but it still brings us down. We should look for God for His Grace.
And when we are on the top of the mountain, we should thank God for his Grace pouring down on us.
When we are at the valley, we should hold on and cries out to God. God does not leave us along and He gives us Grace with divine strength and power.
God will give you the grace in doing your works if He had asked you to do so.
2 Corinthians 9:8-and God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.(Through his abounding grace, God can enable each Christian to abound in generous deeds.)>>>v11- you will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous in every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.
2 Corinthians 12:7-9-⁷to keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh (the nature of this affliction is unknown), a messenger of Satan ( a further descriptions of Paul’s thorn), to torment me. >>>V1- I must go on boasting. Although there is nothing to be gained, I will go on to visions and revelations from the Lord.
⁸ three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
⁹ but he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you (a better solution than to remove Paul’s thorn. Human weakness provides the ideal opportunity for the display of divine power.), for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
never,never give up.. agree or disagree?
The expression "Never, never give up" means to keep trying and never stop working on your goals.
It takes me a few days to think about this topic. At first I am same like others totally agree with this statement but after I think and find some resources about it, I agree with this statement to a certain extent.
Why should this be? First of all, we should refer to the dictionary about the meaning of give up. Give up means stop trying to do something and stop hoping or believing that somebody will change or get better. Yes, we should keep on trying and trying doing something. But the question is: Are you putting all your effort in doing the things before you get failure?
I will separate my essay into a few parts that represent parts in a student life. First of all, Study. A lot of people will always said don’t lose hope and never give up after someone not doing well in their study. But does the person taking their responsibilities to study well? And yet after failure, does the person release where the problems are? Is the person work harder and have more initiative to do well in the next exam?
I realize that a lot people among us study just to pass the exam and not to gain knowledge to be apply in our daily life. And yet some of us are studying for their parents’ wants and not their own interest. As times goes, these person will easy dried up to continue to do well. So as a student, we should find out what are our interest and our aim. Set an aim and goal in our life, always prepare our heart and soul in the best condition to do well in our life with a strength that to be success in once and not twice or even more trying.
Secondly, I will touch on the issue about family relationship. Some of us may have these problems as when I talk to others 1 to 1, I realize that they can relate well with friends than the family. I think many of us when face with this matter, will try to avoid it and blame our parents not modems enough, not tolerate or don’t understand us.etc. But are we doing hard and find ways to improve it? Yes it is hard for our old parents to adopt changes in this world but are we going to tolerate and make a change in their mindset? So think about it whether you agree with my statement or not. We like to blame others instead of ourselves. And most of the time the problems from ourselves and we do not realize it. And keep on blaming others. For some of us, they never give up in blaming others but they give up building their relationship with their parents.
Thirdly, I will touch on the relationship between male and female. I always heard that their heart broken because of break up in their relationship. And they start blaming their partners. For me, I think if there is break up in relationship, both parties do have mistake no matter in what situation. And sometime some of us just take relationship simply, like love at first sight (for me= love is blind.) and some of us working so hard for it. Yes, everyone human is made by God with a heart that is thirsty for love. Do you realize that a lot of us just do the silly things although we realize that it is wrong? Is this considering a good example of not give up? For me relationship is a blessing from God, He will arrange the one for us and not ourselves end up with Mr. /Mrs. Wrong. Like in Chinese quote, it is better for us not to give up the forest just because of that small flower. Sometime, we should learn to let go when break up.
Finally, I think most of us have lots of big dreams in our childhood memory. But when we grow up a lot of our dreams seen to be not real and disappear from our memory. We give up of them already. Do you know that everyone is created just because of a dream? To live with a life with lots of dreams? I felt like burnt up and feel like tired with my life for this past 18 years. Doing things for others and not for myself. When it comes to an end, it’s not me, I like losing my identity and personality. But I take my step to join the Dreams Reloaded camp that I really touch and my broken heart was healed. I am like recharging myself and start doing things from my heart for others and realize that I have so many big dreams that I need to work hard on them. Life is not flat and peace all the time; it will be a boring life like that. So we should live our life to the maximum and make life count (campus friend’s slogan). It is good for man like us not to give up easily and sometime if the things are not made for us, we should learnt to let go.
It takes me a few days to think about this topic. At first I am same like others totally agree with this statement but after I think and find some resources about it, I agree with this statement to a certain extent.
Why should this be? First of all, we should refer to the dictionary about the meaning of give up. Give up means stop trying to do something and stop hoping or believing that somebody will change or get better. Yes, we should keep on trying and trying doing something. But the question is: Are you putting all your effort in doing the things before you get failure?
I will separate my essay into a few parts that represent parts in a student life. First of all, Study. A lot of people will always said don’t lose hope and never give up after someone not doing well in their study. But does the person taking their responsibilities to study well? And yet after failure, does the person release where the problems are? Is the person work harder and have more initiative to do well in the next exam?
I realize that a lot people among us study just to pass the exam and not to gain knowledge to be apply in our daily life. And yet some of us are studying for their parents’ wants and not their own interest. As times goes, these person will easy dried up to continue to do well. So as a student, we should find out what are our interest and our aim. Set an aim and goal in our life, always prepare our heart and soul in the best condition to do well in our life with a strength that to be success in once and not twice or even more trying.
Secondly, I will touch on the issue about family relationship. Some of us may have these problems as when I talk to others 1 to 1, I realize that they can relate well with friends than the family. I think many of us when face with this matter, will try to avoid it and blame our parents not modems enough, not tolerate or don’t understand us.etc. But are we doing hard and find ways to improve it? Yes it is hard for our old parents to adopt changes in this world but are we going to tolerate and make a change in their mindset? So think about it whether you agree with my statement or not. We like to blame others instead of ourselves. And most of the time the problems from ourselves and we do not realize it. And keep on blaming others. For some of us, they never give up in blaming others but they give up building their relationship with their parents.
Thirdly, I will touch on the relationship between male and female. I always heard that their heart broken because of break up in their relationship. And they start blaming their partners. For me, I think if there is break up in relationship, both parties do have mistake no matter in what situation. And sometime some of us just take relationship simply, like love at first sight (for me= love is blind.) and some of us working so hard for it. Yes, everyone human is made by God with a heart that is thirsty for love. Do you realize that a lot of us just do the silly things although we realize that it is wrong? Is this considering a good example of not give up? For me relationship is a blessing from God, He will arrange the one for us and not ourselves end up with Mr. /Mrs. Wrong. Like in Chinese quote, it is better for us not to give up the forest just because of that small flower. Sometime, we should learn to let go when break up.
Finally, I think most of us have lots of big dreams in our childhood memory. But when we grow up a lot of our dreams seen to be not real and disappear from our memory. We give up of them already. Do you know that everyone is created just because of a dream? To live with a life with lots of dreams? I felt like burnt up and feel like tired with my life for this past 18 years. Doing things for others and not for myself. When it comes to an end, it’s not me, I like losing my identity and personality. But I take my step to join the Dreams Reloaded camp that I really touch and my broken heart was healed. I am like recharging myself and start doing things from my heart for others and realize that I have so many big dreams that I need to work hard on them. Life is not flat and peace all the time; it will be a boring life like that. So we should live our life to the maximum and make life count (campus friend’s slogan). It is good for man like us not to give up easily and sometime if the things are not made for us, we should learnt to let go.
Monday, October 12, 2009
RICH DUDE,POOR DUDE
3 aspects to achieve financial peace/freedom
1.receiving-earning
2.managing
3.giving-spending
1.receiving-earning
principles of trusting God
proverbs 10:22- the blessings of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no trouble to it.(wealth is the blessings from God)
proverbs 11:28-whoever trusts in his riches will fall but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.
(usually said who is wicked)
proverbs 22:4- Humidity and the fear of Lord bring wealth and honor and life(benefits for those who seek for wisdom)
beware of get rich schemes
proverbs 28:22-A stingy man is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him.(a warning to those who is stingy and it is the generous who prosper)
proverbs 15:27-A greedy man brings trouble to his family,but he who hates bribes will live.(Archan's whole family perished because of his greed at Jericho aned bribes are condemned）
proverbs 15:25-The Lords tears down the proud man's house but he keep the widow's boundaries intact.(in ancient time boundary stone marked a person's property.anyone who move such as a stone was,in effect, stealing land)
principles of diligence
proverbs 14:23- all hard work brings a profit,but mere talk leads only to poverty.(many proverbs praise diligence and the profit it brings and they condemn laziness as a cause of hunger and poverty)
proverbs10:4-lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hand brings wealth.(so man should work hard for his wealth)
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely, yet gains even more, another withholds unduly,but comes to poverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity.by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run.)
proverbs 11:11-though the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is destroyed.(their good influence and desire for justice as well as the prosperity bring honor to the cuty. their deceit,dishonesty and sowing of discord.)
proverbs 21:5-the plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty(either rash actions or a desire to get rich quick)
2.Managing
principles of wisdom
proverbs 3:13-16
13,blessed is the man who finds wisdom,the man who gain understanding.
14,for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.(the psalmist nakes the same claim for the commands and precepts of the Lord)
15,she is more precious than rubies,nothing you desire can compare with her.(although rubies were the most priceless jewels in the ancient world,they are considered of less value than wisdom)
16, long life is in her right hand and in her left hand are riches an honor.
the quetions to ask is "is it WISE thing to do?'
YES to savings
proverbs 13:11-dishonest money dwindles away,but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.(such as wealth gain by extortion-dishonest money)
proverbs 21:17-he who loves pleasure will become poor,whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich(wine and oil both were associated with lavish feasting )
proverbs 21:20-in the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has.
NO to debts
proverbs 22:7-the rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.(one of the reasons why putting up security for someone else was frowned upon)
3 Giving or spending
principles of stewardship
proverbs22:2-rich and poor have this in common,the Lord is the maker of them all.
proverbs3:9-honor the Lord wiht your wealth,with the firstfruits of all your crops(the Israelites were required to give to the priests the first part of te olive oil,wine and grain produced each year)
needs and wants
principles of generosity
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely yet gains even more,another withholds unduly, but comes to proverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity. by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run)
proverbs 11:25-a generous man will prosper, he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.
proverbs 22:9-a generous man will himself be blessed for he shares his food with the poor.
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rich dude,poor dude-11/10/09
1.receiving-earning
2.managing
3.giving-spending
1.receiving-earning
principles of trusting God
proverbs 10:22- the blessings of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no trouble to it.(wealth is the blessings from God)
proverbs 11:28-whoever trusts in his riches will fall but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.
(usually said who is wicked)
proverbs 22:4- Humidity and the fear of Lord bring wealth and honor and life(benefits for those who seek for wisdom)
beware of get rich schemes
proverbs 28:22-A stingy man is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him.(a warning to those who is stingy and it is the generous who prosper)
proverbs 15:27-A greedy man brings trouble to his family,but he who hates bribes will live.(Archan's whole family perished because of his greed at Jericho aned bribes are condemned）
proverbs 15:25-The Lords tears down the proud man's house but he keep the widow's boundaries intact.(in ancient time boundary stone marked a person's property.anyone who move such as a stone was,in effect, stealing land)
principles of diligence
proverbs 14:23- all hard work brings a profit,but mere talk leads only to poverty.(many proverbs praise diligence and the profit it brings and they condemn laziness as a cause of hunger and poverty)
proverbs10:4-lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hand brings wealth.(so man should work hard for his wealth)
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely, yet gains even more, another withholds unduly,but comes to poverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity.by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run.)
proverbs 11:11-though the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is destroyed.(their good influence and desire for justice as well as the prosperity bring honor to the cuty. their deceit,dishonesty and sowing of discord.)
proverbs 21:5-the plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty(either rash actions or a desire to get rich quick)
2.Managing
principles of wisdom
proverbs 3:13-16
13,blessed is the man who finds wisdom,the man who gain understanding.
14,for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.(the psalmist nakes the same claim for the commands and precepts of the Lord)
15,she is more precious than rubies,nothing you desire can compare with her.(although rubies were the most priceless jewels in the ancient world,they are considered of less value than wisdom)
16, long life is in her right hand and in her left hand are riches an honor.
the quetions to ask is "is it WISE thing to do?'
YES to savings
proverbs 13:11-dishonest money dwindles away,but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.(such as wealth gain by extortion-dishonest money)
proverbs 21:17-he who loves pleasure will become poor,whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich(wine and oil both were associated with lavish feasting )
proverbs 21:20-in the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has.
NO to debts
proverbs 22:7-the rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.(one of the reasons why putting up security for someone else was frowned upon)
3 Giving or spending
principles of stewardship
proverbs22:2-rich and poor have this in common,the Lord is the maker of them all.
proverbs3:9-honor the Lord wiht your wealth,with the firstfruits of all your crops(the Israelites were required to give to the priests the first part of te olive oil,wine and grain produced each year)
needs and wants
principles of generosity
proverbs 11:24-one man gives freely yet gains even more,another withholds unduly, but comes to proverty(generosity is the path to blessing and further prosperity. by contrast,the stingy person does not make any friends and hurts himself in the long run)
proverbs 11:25-a generous man will prosper, he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.
proverbs 22:9-a generous man will himself be blessed for he shares his food with the poor.
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rich dude,poor dude-11/10/09
Saturday, October 10, 2009
ANGRY--NEED CHANGES IN THIS WORLD
2day is totally not a nice day for me..as i watched 2 horror movie continuosly--jennifer's body and phobia2..i hate horror movie..there are some misunderstanding part and wrong concept for religions.all d time throughout d movie i pray that d movie will not brings negative value to d people. the influences of movie are so big..that d reason a lot of traditional churches took watching movie is a way to sin..
yes..if u asked me whether i will go for movie half a year ago b4 i came to kdu, i will say no.. but now i know i should go..if i never step out from d comfort zone, i never know d world outside. i cant make any changes in others' life.
after that, d angry rise up when i heard my parents cried in d phone. they thought that i scored a bad and terrible result c+for accounting and biz and D for law..bcz of kdu make a silly mistake..
d wrong key-in of result sent to my parents. they thought that i am struggling so hard here and pretend that i am good ...as they know i am not good in english.so they thought that i lie to them that i amd doing well.
i never make my parents cried since after i start to go school..and it really hurts...it hurts...
deep hurts...
after this..d presentation part..i know as a group i should not b care about who do more or less. but what i concern is u should atleast do things seriously and be responsible for your way of doing things. i am angry again..and again
like feeling dissapointed with d world..i pray and asked God for wisdom..and how to love someone that are so irresponsible..
later i decide to find Wil to talk..i know i should find someone to talk as a way to release all d anger and seek for advice so that a better decision and action to be made.
continued doing my power point..its tiring...
yes..if u asked me whether i will go for movie half a year ago b4 i came to kdu, i will say no.. but now i know i should go..if i never step out from d comfort zone, i never know d world outside. i cant make any changes in others' life.
after that, d angry rise up when i heard my parents cried in d phone. they thought that i scored a bad and terrible result c+for accounting and biz and D for law..bcz of kdu make a silly mistake..
d wrong key-in of result sent to my parents. they thought that i am struggling so hard here and pretend that i am good ...as they know i am not good in english.so they thought that i lie to them that i amd doing well.
i never make my parents cried since after i start to go school..and it really hurts...it hurts...
deep hurts...
after this..d presentation part..i know as a group i should not b care about who do more or less. but what i concern is u should atleast do things seriously and be responsible for your way of doing things. i am angry again..and again
like feeling dissapointed with d world..i pray and asked God for wisdom..and how to love someone that are so irresponsible..
later i decide to find Wil to talk..i know i should find someone to talk as a way to release all d anger and seek for advice so that a better decision and action to be made.
continued doing my power point..its tiring...
Sunday, October 4, 2009
RICH GOD, POOR GOD
Poor God mentality
1 genie mentality-this kind of person basically are people that always ask for return after doing something..
2 buffet mentality-this kind of person basically are greedy person that want to get all at one time
3 pie mentality-this kind of person basically are more calculative and jealous about what others have
So, all of them are consider poor God mentality as it shows the resources are limited.
PROVERBS 22:2
Rich and poor have this in common, the LORD is the MAKER of them all.(that means God created the rich and the poor in HIS image.so no need to jealous about what others have as we are all created in GOD;s image.)
RICH GOD MENTALITY
STORY OF THE PARABLE OF THE LOST SON
LUKE 15:11-32
PROVERBS 10:22
The blessing of the Lords brings wealth and He adds no trouble to it( therefore wealth is a gift from GOD and not a product of human attainment)
JOHN10:10
I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.( Christ's interest is in his sheep, whom he enables them have life to the full)
1 TIMOTHY 6:17
Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain,but to put their hope in God,who richly provide us with everything for our enjoyment.( our God are always there for us to trust Him and ask for His wisdom.)
As a christian when come to believing God,
we should [ CHOOSE THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT THE RESOURCES] FROM GOD
[GOD LOVES SO HE GAVE, WE BELIEVE SO WE RECEIVE]
so, basically this is what i learnt from 2day the service.it will getting more interesting in the coming week with the topic
rich God,poor God-04/10/09
1 genie mentality-this kind of person basically are people that always ask for return after doing something..
2 buffet mentality-this kind of person basically are greedy person that want to get all at one time
3 pie mentality-this kind of person basically are more calculative and jealous about what others have
So, all of them are consider poor God mentality as it shows the resources are limited.
PROVERBS 22:2
Rich and poor have this in common, the LORD is the MAKER of them all.(that means God created the rich and the poor in HIS image.so no need to jealous about what others have as we are all created in GOD;s image.)
RICH GOD MENTALITY
STORY OF THE PARABLE OF THE LOST SON
LUKE 15:11-32
PROVERBS 10:22
The blessing of the Lords brings wealth and He adds no trouble to it( therefore wealth is a gift from GOD and not a product of human attainment)
JOHN10:10
I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.( Christ's interest is in his sheep, whom he enables them have life to the full)
1 TIMOTHY 6:17
Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain,but to put their hope in God,who richly provide us with everything for our enjoyment.( our God are always there for us to trust Him and ask for His wisdom.)
As a christian when come to believing God,
we should [ CHOOSE THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT THE RESOURCES] FROM GOD
[GOD LOVES SO HE GAVE, WE BELIEVE SO WE RECEIVE]
so, basically this is what i learnt from 2day the service.it will getting more interesting in the coming week with the topic
rich God,poor God-04/10/09
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