father or mother is better in parenting?

Without thinking too much I will say yes that women play more important role in parenting. But after further thinking, I think family consists of man and woman make a better parenting as it only consider a complete family with the exists of both man and woman.

In traditions, women are playing an important role as housewives. They spend most of their time in the house together with the children. The men are going out to work from day to night just to find a living for the family. However, when time goes, the women now are more ‘independent’ in the sense that they are now working and not totally rely on their husband. There is a balance between men and women. So there are different things that can be found in the men and women.

When we are young as small children, girls will be more likely to get close with their father while boys are vice versa. When we grow up, we tend to be more personal like more willing to share our lives with someone that we trust and same sex as us. We do not feel like embarrassed to talk about topic like relationship, marriage, love, sex and etc. This is important for teenagers as they are curious about these kinds of topics, and yet they need someone to teach them the correct way to handle them.

Beside that, men and women play different role in the family. Women will act as ‘white face’, give a lot of advice, encouragement, while on the other side, men need to act as a ‘black face’ to be more strict and give punishment to their children when in need. Parenting is important as it build up the children characteristics and personalities. It has been states that saying a bad word needs 7 good words to offset the effect of that bad word. A child born in the family with always scolding and punishment will have a negative mindset and low self-confident. This is bad for the children to start friendship, socialize with others. So there should be a balance in parenting while both men and women should play different role and both are equally important.

Apart from that, there has been proven that many problems teenagers that involved in civil and criminal offences are came from single parent family. This show how important to have both male and female in a family. Lack of caring and love from parents will lead to a higher possibility for teenagers to do the wrong things.

As a conclusion, both father and mother play important roles in parenting in order to make their children to be success in their lives.